Posted by
Sue on Monday, March 26, 2007 3:57:05 PM
03/26/07
I have been trying to approach the concept of love in my second post on the subject in a less syrupy way than usually found in discussions, movies or Hallmark cards. Love is, after all what really make the difference between a good/decent person or a bad/evil person. I say this having just posted on Evan Sayet's speech, but I am approaching this from a "human" point of view, not the homo sapien viewpoint of the tinfoil hatted leftist loons. There is a difference.
The difference is that one can conceive of a God and the other a devil. I will let you, the reader, decide which one is which one.
To love is a natural, spontaneous emotion that springs from pheromones in lustlove or from the soul's perception of finding its other half, human love. It comes to parents upon the presentation of a newborn into ones hands. It comes to parents who have been up for many nights without much sleep but who look upon their offspring and don't blame them for the intrusion and disruption. It comes to parents daily when they look to or at their youngest children, their older children, their middle age children or their old children. Mixed in with that love is dislike which can really throw off a person's perception! I mean how can I love if I don't or can't like, right? But love is special and different. It doesn't hold to "rules", it just is and for those that have the capacity to feel it, it is they that feel blessed. So, you can love and not like someone. It is a difficult concept to get across to children, but it is very, very crucial that we do. So in teaching our children, they should always know that they are loved 24/7 but not always liked. That is normal and helps to away with the anger that arises when children don't feel loved/liked and don't know the difference. Like when you tell your child that they are always good, but that sometimes what they do or say is not a "good job". They are good the things they can say and do can be "not".
In addition to all the above, a human has to learn the hardest lesson of all: they must learn to love themselves first! That's right, first. But, that's for another post on another day.